Or Recipe for Peace
Have you wondered why we all wish for
world peace and yet we have not manifested it yet? I think the concept of peace is so very
foreign to most people. Imagine all the
things that upset you? Keep careful
observation on all the things that rattle your cage. Maybe you can identify the top offending five
of them: People who cut you off in traffic, the neighbors dog who tears up your
garden, scam artists that have borrowed money and then did not repay it,
telemarketers who call during dinner, and for me, people that constantly advise me
on how to lose weight. Those are more
minor irritations. Imagine a bomb going
off. Imagine a stray NATO bomb that hit
a children’s play ground and killed your 5 year old daughter. That really
happened in Serbia 1991. All your
thoughts of peace are now disbanned. I
am a parent who lost a child. Jason was 27 years old. I wrote a book called “Sunflowers for Jason”
about his life and overcoming grief. It is available on Amazon. There is no
amount of money or consequence to another that would ever make up for the pain
and loss a parent feels. In the wake of
the Sandy Hook murders, I think most people are sensitive to the price those
families are paying, especially during the Holidays. Most sudden murder and the
witnessing of the innocent blood of children is followed by shock more than
anger. In time loved ones will
experience anger and very intensely so. I was angry at everyone and God. I was so short tempered that I was let go of
my job. That was the first time in my
life that I was fired too. I was a
complete mess. As much as I say I want
world peace, I could have pushed that red button on some of those emotional
days. That is a scary thought. Most of my friends and family did not
understand why I was a mess a year later.
They did the right obligatory things such as bring flowers and food the
week of the funeral, so what is left to do?
Most people will experience the most intense grief about 6 months to a
year after the death. The first six
months are full of shock and denial.
This varies with each individual and grief is very individual. I could talk at length about the stages of
grief and then how that vector turns into a noodle of ups and downs and crisscrosses
its path like a snake on speed. I am a
veteran at six years of grief over Jason, but, I am not out of the woods. When his birthday or “angelversary” comes
up, it feels like I am standing by his
coffin and looking down at his gorgeous face as though it was yesterday. He was and is beautiful and he will remain so
in my mind. I could spend a day
reflecting on the times I wanted to just join him on the other side. God saved me and spared me that fate. Now I try and work at healing others and
creating peace. I started to talk about
peace and I will continue to look at why that is so not happening in our
world.
My ex husband just sent me the rent
money. I will pay him back in a few
weeks. I think that is the best example
of peace I can think of. We were at odds
for many years. I might have even wished
that he catch a horrible disease on his honeymoon with his second
marriage. I shudder to think. We have matured and progressed over the
years. I can see my errors in thinking
and I do believe he realizes some of his mistakes as well. We can
communicate in a friendly and honest way.
If Jason had lived to see this I know he would like it. In fact, he is here with me and he does like
it. (I am a medium) The more we can
forgive ourselves and others the more possible peace becomes. I really don’t think that war and economic
sanctions ever create lasting peace. In
fact I will venture to say that poverty creates war more than any other
device. If we want world peace as we
often say we do, make sure the other people in your life are doing OK
financially. Then take that wish and radiate it into your
community and be sure that the community at large is sustaining itself in a
healthy way. After that we look at our
neighbors abroad. I think President Kennedy
did that best thing ever with creating the Peace Corps. How brilliant. Now Kennedy also averted a war with Russia in
the Bay of Pigs incident. Each side of
that skirmish left the table with their dignity intact. Respecting another person culture and
understanding their needs are imperative to peace. Most people do not understand the perspective
of others enough to truly negotiate peace.
I think I will go back to the small
pond I live in and hope that everyone I know and that I care about is doing well. Next I want to create a ripple in my pond that moves gracefully accross the oceans and beyond. Life will create some peace ripples and
some disagreements. My nuclear family is my son, Zac, and we have an
understanding. If I am upset then it is
my responsibility to discover the root belief that is causing it. People who have a hair trigger temper will
have their work cut out for them. Maybe an anger management class? The
first rule is; be able to state what is upsetting you and what you need. State it quietly, honestly and
respectfully. If it is ignored then you
move to stage two. That is you sit down
at the table with two cups of herbal tea and honey and wait for the other
person to notice. If they sit down also,
then slowly bring up your need again and wait.
They will probably respond appropriately. If they don’t then hopefully they offer a
reason for not being able to help you and for not agreeing with your
perspective. There are further
negotiations and the final one might be removing yourself from the situation for a
while.
Notice that none of these options suggest buying a machine gun? They don’t even advocate yelling to get your point across or seeing a divorce lawyer, and they especially do not suggest throwing a dinner plate with food across the table at your husband. My mother often did that during dinner and then none of us kids could eat. I was a skinny kid who went to the hospital frequently, and still they did not get why that sort of behavior did not work well at creating a happy family life. That happens in American families and with our foreign policies as well. Dad died early and mom had horrible health issues later. Putting those pieces together is important. The bomb you throw returns to poison your own world. As Jesus said, if you live by the sword, you will die by the sword.
Notice that none of these options suggest buying a machine gun? They don’t even advocate yelling to get your point across or seeing a divorce lawyer, and they especially do not suggest throwing a dinner plate with food across the table at your husband. My mother often did that during dinner and then none of us kids could eat. I was a skinny kid who went to the hospital frequently, and still they did not get why that sort of behavior did not work well at creating a happy family life. That happens in American families and with our foreign policies as well. Dad died early and mom had horrible health issues later. Putting those pieces together is important. The bomb you throw returns to poison your own world. As Jesus said, if you live by the sword, you will die by the sword.
The bed we need to feather is one of
understanding. Understanding the needs of others and how to compromise and
negotiate is key to peace. That means
visualizing a happy healthy world for others.
I am getting good at manifesting for other people. I have become the reincarnated fairy God
Mother to several people. If they tell
me what they are trying to accomplish and what they need to grow a business
idea, Wham Bam Thank You Fairy God Mother…it is on their door step. Giving to another and helping others with
prosperity is easier to manifest than my own desires. Why
this is a rule is amazing. I think the
reason it works so well is this: At some
level all things are connected and one.
It is really the law of oneness that is believed and activated when you
sincerely help another. Along with this
desire to help, I make it a secret. Sometimes
people ask openly for help and I am on it and acting on it right away. There is no secret. At other times, I am praying intently with love and tears, and the
other one does exactly know, but it works just the same or maybe better. This is love in action. The action part of love is needed to create
heaven on earth or peace. This is really
very simple and a nuts and bolts analysis of getting peace started for all of us. Some of you already know and you are ahead of me. Least any of us forget. I speak to myself much more than any other on this subject.
The beliefs we hold close will create the comfy bed
that peace will chose to lay in.
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